So, cancer sucks. Diabetes sucks. Lupus stinks, Multiple Sclerosis is horrible, and fibromyalgia is miserable. All incurable diseases are overwhelming, depressing, and heartbreaking. And sometimes, the disease itself isn’t even the worst part! Often times, the side effects from the medication used to treat the disease can be worse than the symptoms of the disease itself. The side effects can make people feel worse than normal, make them feel useless, unattractive, and helpless. This can lead to severe depression and anxiety which can affect all of the relationships in our lives, both romantic and platonic.
But even through the horrible side effects, the miserable diseases, the bad days, the worse days, and the good days, there is one thought that must remain. YOU MATTER. YOU ARE A GIFT TO THE WORLD.
Even on the worst days, where it hurts to breathe, and you don’t want to move for fear of pain so overwhelming you could pass out, you are beautiful. Even on bad days where your hair is falling out, your body aches and you feel like no one could ever find you attractive, you are beautiful. When you look in the mirror and can’t find anything to love, trust me, there is someone out there that will love all of your faults, flaws and imperfections. Perhaps its a family member, a friend or a significant other, but someone will love what you don’t. But please remember that you don’t need these people to be strong. You are strong all on your own. You can deal with pain and irritations that would put the average person in the hospital. Your tolerance exceeds anything normal, but you survive. You keep pushing every day. Even when it scares you and you want to crawl under the covers in bed and hide for years, you are courageous.
Courage is not overcoming something, or acting like it doesn’t hurt, like it doesn’t bother you. Courage is defined as the ability to do something that frightens you or strength in the face of pain or grief. Simply waking up in the morning with the determination to get through the day to wake up the next morning is a courageous act. This is true strength, true beauty. But courage also allows you to feel fear, to feel anger, and to feel depression. Do not hide from the emotions. Embrace the release that crying can bring. Embrace the fear, for that is what will allow you to conquer it. Being afraid doesn’t mean you are inferior or weak. It means that you recognize that there is something bigger than you that you may not understand or know how to fight, but courage is trying to understand and fight anyways.
Do not let anyone tell you how you should feel. Do not let anyone tell you how to heal your own heart. Do not let anyone judge you for how you handle your illness. As long as you are breathing, you aren’t failing. Remember that. You can do this. I believe in you. You can fight, you can do more than exist. Don’t worry about how others may react to you. Just be authentic. Be 100% you. No one else in the world can do that. That is how you stay true to yourself and that makes you beautiful. It makes you an inspiration and a work of art in a world of monotony. Be unique. Be eccentric. But above all, be you. Don’t change for anyone.Don’t let anyone make decisions for you. Choose your own path. And remember that even though you may suffer from an illness, that doesn’t change who you are as a person. You are not your disease and your disease is not you. If someone in your life believes that, cut them out of your life, because you don’t need that kind of negativity. The world is already a scary place, but negativity just makes it worse. Try and surround yourself with beauty. It will get you much farther than pessimism and cynicism will. Continue to be courageous, strong and beautiful. Because you are, and there is nothing anyone can say or do to change that. You are not alone, and you are not worthless. You matter. You are more than beautiful. You are a star.